Marriage, is it "Work" ?

For someone who is inexperienced, or has totally different understanding of marriage, has probably asked this question , "what is marriage, is it hard work ?".

i've seen women,specially at their early twenties, suffer after they've got married, thinking that marriage is supposed to be fun and exciting, while it turned out messy and full of arguments!

For both Men and Women, in order for marriage to work, without being bumpy, you must not... : 

Try to make their own parter into someone their not,

Believe they have superior rights, tastes, preferences, beliefs, or mortality,

Are unwilling to be imaginative and see their partner's perspectives alongside their own,

Are convinced that their partners are selfish, mentally ill, or defective,

Are unwilling to admire their partners' strengths and regard their vulnerabilities with compassion and support,

Are unwilling to appreciate the value and meaning their partner's add to their lives.

If you are indeed one of those people, marriage will seem impossible, but if you're not, it will be just about compromising

and for those of you who are not married "yet", all i can say is choose your partner wisely. It's same as when working under a manager, or choosing a particular professor, because lets face it, they can either make your life a simple heaven :) or a living hell  :@ !!

P.S. for those who are married, Hang in there :)